1 — This is my site and therefore I post my opinions. I don’t get on other people’s stuff, and share my opinions or even comment on theirs.
2 — My passion is to change the mindset of people, especially Christians to bring unconditional love. I love to inspire (or coerce) people to think. A lot of people let others do their thinking for them and then just repeat what they’ve heard. I think these people are an echo and not a voice.
3 — One of my core values is being authentic and real — I don’t hide things and put on a perfect facade. I’m not concerned about being politically correct—though I care about people’s feelings—I’m not running for any office or trying to be popular. If you are looking for someone shiny to follow keep looking (note: Jesus isn’t on this earth anymore.) I work hard to be true to my own convictions: whether or not they’re popular. This makes some people uncomfortable.
4 — Some people message me and say they are surprised by my posts—mainly on Facebook. People that know me well, however, are not surprised. I am the same in public and in private. Even my wife shakes her head, but she never questions my sincerity or purpose.
5 — I often embrace opposing views on the same subject. I believe that all truth is held in tension. For example Jesus said,
Honor your mother and father….” Then a couple chapters later, Jesus said, “Unless you hate your mother and your father…you can’t be my disciples.
Truth is not always an easy thing to come to — and I would argue that many times it’s impossible to arrive perfectly. Scripture is a good start and foundation but the Spirit is still speaking just like Jesus promised his disciples before He left earth. Truth is held in tension and if you are not okay with that, listening to me will make you anxious. I believe there’s often more than one, correct answer or way to look at something. Everything does not have an easy black or white answer. We live in an imperfect world full of grey.
6 — I don’t understand people who follow me and are offended by my opinions. Why would someone choose to be on my posts if they do not value my opinion? I’m open to learning and growing but I’m not going to change who I am. If a person has a hard time looking at other truths or possibilities, my advice would be to not follow my page, and not read my posts.
7 — I have a very sarcastic, dry sense of humor. I am often joking when people come unglued. Please settle down, breathe and settle down & maybe breathe more.
8 — My posts are not Bible studies. If you need a scripture for everything then you should read the Bible not my posts. Some people are hyper-spiritual and love to argue—an interesting mix. I’m guessing they think that because I am a minister, everything I share should make some theological point. That’s not me. I’m grounded & influenced by the Bible but even the ancient rabbis grappled with how to apply passages. You don’t have a perfect understanding of scripture and neither do I. We are still in the flux of understanding and growing. There was a time, not too long ago, that people used scripture to substantiate slavery. Thank God we’ve moved on, at least mostly. Ending slavery was a work of the Holy Spirit, not scripture alone.
9 — It is important for me to look at how our views on subjects hurt people; these are the very people that need our love, affection and care. I believe in moral absolutes regarding areas that directly hurt another human being. But I’ve decided that taking moral stands on things just for the strict purpose of morality when it compromises loving and caring for a person, right where they are, does not reflect the core ministry of Jesus. For example, if your fight for traditional marriage, as a fight for morality, leaves people hurt in your wake I disagree with the battle you are waging. Love Wins!
10 — People who do like me tend to feel sorry for me when people are harsh or disagreeable. Please don’t feel sorry for me! Anyone who causes me any level of stress, I just block. I have really thick skin when it comes to people’s public opinions. Conflict doesn’t bother me much at all unless it’s with the people I really am close to like my family & a select few of close friends. So you don’t need to defend me; I’m good.
There is a world of hurting, ostracized, broken people that need voices like mine. Many quietly read along and tell me months later how thankful they are for someone like me to put things out there that challenge the general mindset. They say I am a breath of fresh air (even though I know I’m making many choke.) It’s these people that I am passionate about. In the world’s terms I’m at the top of the social ladder. I’m a white, straight male with a conservative, privileged background and I want to use that for the good of all. I am where I am for a reason.
My wife Melanie said once,
Why has God put this desire in you to deal with the subjects no one wants to talk about? Part of me wishes you could just stick with the basics and tow the regular line. But I know that’s not who you are. I’m happy you doing what you think is right.
Deep down I know it may take a lifetime to get us to move past our hangups and press closer into the image of God. Isn’t that what God intended all along? He walked with Adam for that very purpose—to continue what He said to Himself, “Let Us make man in Our image.”
This is a continuing, progressive statement that is still happening today.
✞ ❥ I LOVE YOU ALL ❥ ✞